Thought for the Day
THE UPPER CRUST
I was driving home the
other day, and I heard a song on the
radio that took me back a few years. It was a song by the group Outkast,
entitled "Hey Ya." I was transported to a New Years Eve party in Los Angeles,
back in 2002 or '03. Outkast was performing this song on one of the New
Years Eve specials that aired that night on television. At that time in my
life, I was a Marketing and PR Consultant to a cosmetic surgeon in Beverly Hills who also
happened to be a good friend of mine. We were both single
then and, in our determination not to spend the holiday alone, we agreed to go to
his sister's party together (she was a district attorney in the hard-core gangs unit in Los
Angeles). We truly were just friends, so I saw this as a fantastic opportunity
to step outside of my usual circle and meet some new and interesting people.
As the song played on
I couldn't help but reminisce a little. 'That evening had been fun,' I thought
as I smiled, remembering the details. My
friend's sister danced to this very song in front of her television, while the
band performed it from New York. She and her fiance were adorable, as she swung her hips and
they tried to do the twist - so happy and
carefree. I can't even begin to elaborate on the social metaphors that
were being shattered in this one instance. Not only would some think it
ludicrous to derive any sort of evidence to support this essay on the Upper
Crust of society from Outkast or any one of their songs (being a musical group
who by all accounts has tried very hard to squelch or stave off any and all
references to their undeniable cuteness, or teeny-bopper appeal, and command
respect, appearing edgy or at the very least, intelligent, sexual and
contemporary in the hip-hop world) but the very fact that this cute little upper-class, white-bread couple became giddy on hearing the song, and ran to the front
of the room to swing to it is priceless, to say the least. It proves that
social mores are suspect, at minimum. Dammit, white people can
enjoy hip-hop just like the next guy, whether he or she be a "brother" or a
"sister." Suffice it to say that were this same scenario played out in the
hood, these cute white folks would be lucky to get out alive. It's just
not okay, in the minds of many purveyors of all that is the "hood" for white
people with money to enjoy this music. They just can't understand the
plight of the black man, or the underprivileged. Not that the lyrics
"Uh, thank god for mom and dad for sticking through together 'cause we don't
know hooowww... UH!" conjure up any sort of "power to
the underprivileged," but they are performed by two guys who came from nothing,
so to speak, and now have a voice, albeit a fun, feel-good sort of voice. But I
The party consisted mostly of
attorneys - coworkers of the host and hostess - and most were there with dates or as very
well-established couples. Despite my obvious unattached state, I was able to
meander comfortably, striking up conversation where it appealed to me.
There were some interesting people at the party. That's when I met Devin
(I've changed his name to spare him the embarrassment). A very attractive
man, also a coworker of the hostess.
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Are You Living in Blind
an interesting analysis of how very busy and involved people can
lead very isolated lives.
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It started very simply, really,
with the realization of how one different choice - one simple gesture -
can change the course of our lives, and either hinder our success, or
make it possible. How the choices we make in life reflect the key people
we know in our lives. The fact is, we humans settle into familiar patterns
- we frequent the same places, and run in a few different,
select (though somewhat inter-connected) circles.
we are willing and have the desire to continually grow, we can see how narrow
our scope truly is, and open our eyes to that great big world out there.
If our first impulse, once we discover how truly isolated we are,
is usually to gnore it. Pretend it doesn't really exist.
We're continental humans, in the end, aren't we? Maybe.
But if we realize just how small we are in the shape of the universe,
we'll grow beyond ourselves, enrich our lives and the lives of others, and extend
our own circles to unfathomable places.
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